Being a Parent is a Community

Being a Parent is a Community

     “Being a parent is a Community” one that I love being part of.  Once you are a parent I believe you seek out other parents subconsciously and here starts your being part of the “Parent Community”.  What brings this group together is the common factor that being parents is a hard job and for sanity reasons I think we are always looking for someone to share our experiences with and whom can relate to us and which then enables us to find strength.  In David Berreby.s essay he writes “A subconscious clue for perceiving a tribe as real and valuable, then, may be expending sweat , tears, and  embarrassment to get it” (Remix 122),  sounds like that would be parenthood right there.

     Transformation for me into this new community happened virtually without me even knowing it, one day you are part of the just married or single community, and the next you are part of the play dates, carpool to ballet, horseback riding lesson and what you going to make for dinner that is healthy community, and what keeps you here in this community is all the others with the same values and ideas.  You find yourself staying part of this community for several reasons; being a parent has now became the focal point of your whole life and you are now drawn to others who feel the same.  How you spend your time also keeps you part of the community, you now find yourself only socializing with others in your community because they too are parents and even though you would love to go to Vegas with your friends outside your community you go for Disneyland with people inside you community because these people in your tribe or community is who you can identify with.

The greatest part of being in this community is that you will always be part of it, no matter where you may move or no matter what age you are; you will always be part of the parent community.

“While we try to teach our children all about life, our children teach us what life is all about.”